The Chinese's hospitality is fully expressed at feasts or dinners. People will exchange their feelings while they urge others to drink more, their love to each other will be purified and raised to a higher level. While drinking, we Chinese like urging others to drink more in order to express the host's and hostess' honesty and friendship. The more the guest drinks, the more cheerful the host or hostess feels, which symbolizes having good opinions of the host or hostess. If the guest refuses to have a drink, the host or hostess will feel disgraced. Some people have concluded the ways of urging others to drink more as follows: "a polite urge", "a forceful urge" and "a punishing urge". These ways of urging others to drink more express the traditional, simple, and honest remaining customs on the one hand, but also have some negative effects on the other hand. "A Polite Urge" is a way to show the traditional virtues of drinking etiquette--to urge guest to drink more in a manner of politeness and proper formalities.
When a feast starts, the host begin with his first urge by delivering a short speech, all the guests and host should stand up at the moment . The host will firstly drink to the bottom, then turning the cup upside down to show he has already had his drink, which shows his respect to the guests. The guests on this occasion should usually drink the cup up. During the course of the feast, the host usually go around the tables to urge the guests to drink more.
"A Return Urge " is a way the guest is grateful to the host for his entertainment to ask the host to drink more."An Each Other's Urge". It is a way to urge each other or one another to drink more among the guests. In order to ask others to drink more, the propose will find out various excuses and reasons to urge others to drink more. If the guest who is asked to drink more can't find out the reasons to reject, he is obliged to drink more. During the course of searching for excuses to refuse the proposer's invitation, the love and friendship among drinkers will be improved and bettered.
